Davidson AbishegamFrom time to time, the Neue team gets asked some pretty hard questions.
One of those came from a long-time Neue reader, who wished only to be identified as ‘Ms S’. She requested that her real name not be used for fear of her employer’s reaction. She was thinking of leaving her job.
The Neue team strongly believes that when it comes to certain questions, it’s best to leave it to the professionals. And so we got in touch with a good friend of ours, Davidson Abishegam, a certified professional trainer, author, business coach and management consultant.
The ever-friendly Davidson, who recently launched his book – “8 Vital Skills to Succeed at the Workplace – The Raw Truth to Stay Ahead of the Pack” – has kindly agreed to spare some time from his busy schedule to answer YOUR QUESTIONS.
That said, we’d like to welcome you to the very first edition of the #AskDavidson column.
Question:
Dear Davidson, I am thinking of leaving my job. A friend of mine told me: ‘People do not leave bad jobs, they leave bad managers.’ What are your thoughts on this? – Ms S
Answer:
No matter how much you like your job, if there is a person you can’t get along with, or someone who is not there as a motivator or mentor, you will end up leaving your job.
Let’s begin with addressing attitude, which is, I believe, the most important quality you need for a successful career. A positive attitude is the ‘fuel’ for your development. Consequently, a good attitude towards your job, your colleagues and your organisation will also go a long way in making you a more ‘sought-after’ person.
When you have a negative attitude, you can’t enjoy your job, neither perform well in it.
What I’m trying to say is that working with a person who is unbearable creates your negative attitude towards your job, so it’s easier to leave the job than it is to stay. It is a manager’s responsibility to create a healthy productive work environment, to organise efficient work flow, and to make sure relationships inside the team are not causing any problems.
What if, hypothetically, you will leave your job now and will get a new one with a similar situation: bad manager? You can control many things, but you can’t control people, so it is essential to develop communication skills, increase tolerance and be more flexible with others.
Think about achievements you have already done at your job, or future goals that are not reached yet. Can you see your potential that can be applied at your current job in future?
If yes, you might need to work on expanding your Circle of Tolerance (using Colored Brain Communication Inventory), which will help you to get a better understanding of your manager (or anyone else), and, hopefully, build better communication at work.
To sum up: It’s easier to leave the job because of the manager, than it is to stay at the job you like. – Davidson
To learn more about Colored Brain and Davidson’s workshops, check him out on social media – Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn. Keep posted and don’t miss the next workshop that will be held at Radisson Hotel in Brunei on August 27 to 28.
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Davidson is a certified professional trainer, author, business coach and management consultant. He is an engaging and versatile presenter with over 20 years of experience in the training industry. Over the course of his career, he has trained over 1,000 companies comprising start-ups, SMEs, MNCs, government agencies and others all over Southeast Asia.